Wednesday, January 21, 2009


A couple months ago I thought relationships were easy. You love people and are honest and everything works out.

Hmmm... Now I am wondering if I have one uncomplicated relationship? Everything seems so hard and confusing. Is it because I am getting older? Knowing people longer? Knowing people better? Them knowing me?

I know it is worth the discomfort and angst but I see why some people keep everything surfacey. Much easier and possibly more fun. Not better or more rewarding, I know, but TEMPTING!

And someone was using our credit card. Thank goodness they will let you contest the charges.

What do you want most out of a relationship?


Marnie said... answer to your question ...what comes to mind ....honesty and sincerity. Speaking the truth, in love.

My view re relationships: We can stay in a box and be protected but it would be very boring...daring to be vulnerable and get out of the box allows us to experience all the Lord has for us!!!! Thus, relationships are definitely worth the time and the trouble, at least that's what I've found. Sometimes it is "iron upon iron" but the end result is usually good, if we are willing to learn the spiritual lessons in the experience. Abuse (of any kind), however, should never be accepted. Prayer is our most effective tool.

What a violation to have someone use your credit card. Ugh, We live in a fallen world.

Andresa said...

"Agape love is a love that denotes an undefeatable benecolenve and unconquerable good will that alwasys seeks the highest good of the other person, no matter what he does." What I want MOST out of a relationship is this definition of love, I want it, and I want to give it, because then, it really does not matter what I do, or what is done to me, because face it, we all do stupid stupid things in life, but at least I would know that there love for me is not based upon my performance. That is what I want most out of a relationship.
Be patient with your friend and know that there is a lesson in all of this somewhere, and if you ask, God will show you what it is.

Anonymous said...

sorry for all the typos....blush blush!

tawny said...

I think what is confusing me is knowing what is right in a relationship. When should we speak and when should we trust God and be patient? I know the problem is more in my own heart than in any of my friend's. I want what is best for them but is it my place to try and lead them to a better place, or should I leave that up to God? I am sure it is a matter of following the Spirit and there is no formula. Every situation is different. It was just easier before I started worrying about hurting people so much and just said whatever I wanted. :)

Anonymous said...

I want uncomplicated love.